Jennifer Lopez has had quite a busy summer. She simultaneously entertained audiences on her It’s My Party tour and promoted her upcoming movie Hustlers. She’s also hard at work planning a wedding to fiancé Alex Rodriguez. But somewhere in the middle of all that, she found time to meet Associate Justice of the U.S. Supreme Court Ruth Bader Ginsburg.
While they were together, J.Lo asked RBG if she knew the secret to a happy marriage. Naturally, she did. And now, Ginsburg is sharing her wisdom with the rest of us. She told the story over the weekend at the Library of Congress’ National Book Festival in Washington, D.C., and Lopez shared the video on Instagram.
“I was called about a month or so ago by Jennifer Lopez, and she said she would like to meet me and introduce her fiancé Alex Rodriguez,” Ginsburg said. “So they came to chambers, and we had a very nice visit. She mostly wanted to ask if I had any secret about a happy marriage.”
RGB proceeded to share her secret to a happy marriage, which she learned from her mother-in-law on her wedding day.
“On the day I was married, my mother-in-law—I was married in her home—she took me aside and said she wanted to tell me what was the secret of a happy marriage. And I said, ‘I’d be glad to hear, what is it?’ And she responded, ‘It helps sometimes to be a little deaf.’ And that good advice I have followed in every workplace, including the good job I now have. So, if an unkind word, a thoughtless word, is said, you just tune out.”
J.Lo loved RGB’s marriage advice, but she loved another piece of advice even more.
Lopez asked Ginsburg what she and Rodriguez can do to help unite our divided country. She shared Ginsburg’s advice in her Instagram caption.
“I loved her advice for a happy marriage, but my favorite response of hers was to a question I asked about the country seeming so broken right now and divided, and that it’s sad to me, and what should Alex and I be doing… how can we help? And she said, “Keep doing what you’re doing, inspiring people and living by example. You must continue to change the world with your respective gifts.” I thought to myself yes, be your best self, put love into the world and justice, not hate and fear; help wherever and whenever you can. And following that piece of sage advice… that’s what we intend to do.”
There you have it: The secret to a happy marriage, Ruth Bader Ginsburg-style.